My husband and I had some discussions about whether we wanted kids or not before we got married. However, it was after we got engaged and were planning a wedding that these discussions became more serious.
Would we be good parents?
What does it mean to be a good parent?
What would it mean for our social lives?
What would happen to our careers if we had children?
Were we financially ready?
How many children would we want?
Can our home accommodate another person?
Where would we live?
Would we regret having children?
There were just so many questions! I was really glad I had my husband to talk through everything with me as I came up with a lot of these questions! He’s calm and chill while I worry lots and can get anxious easily.
We ultimately decided that we did want children and would start trying after our honeymoon. We also decided that if we ended being infertile, then we would accept our fate and also be happy being child-free.
For extra context, we are an Asian-Australian couple in their late-20s living in Australia 🙂